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PATRICIA GOUW: EMBRACING HER TRUE PERSONA

Patricia never wanted to be a full-time model when she first entered the industry at age 19. Modelling jobs were just for pocket money, but after a few jobs, she got into several prestigious modelling competitions, including Gading Model Search, Wajah Femina, and Asia’s Next Top Model. Patricia also takes advantage of the growing entertainment industry in Indonesia and some of her other hidden talents by working as a TV presenter and content-creator or influencer.

After years in the modelling industry, why did you choose to be more focused on other work in the entertainment industry?

For me, modelling is not a lifetime career. Especially considering my height, which considered “short” in the industry, I don’t have that many options. Modelling is also very seasonal, so I don’t know if I’ll have a job any given month and not good for making a stable income. People have always told me that I could be a presenter or emcee but I didn’t think I could really do it. I’m not used to talking to big crowds or speaking in front of the camera. The judges on Asia’s Next Top Model also told me that I have better prospects in commercial work, and more broadly that I can be more than just a model. I listened to them. After the competition, I joined HardRock FM as an announcer, and then I became a host on Insert.

(Photo courtesy by Patricia Gouw)

“I think women should use social media wisely because not everything on social media is true and as picture-perfect as it looks at first sight,”

You’re very outgoing and cheerful. What is the key to having such energy and self-confidence?

People always think I’m very confident naturally but I’ve been through a lot of things to get to this stage. Knowing that people accept and love me for who I am was key for me. I get my energy from other people because I’m happy to meet a lot of people. This doesn’t mean that I can’t get exhausted. People only see me on social media for 15 seconds or a few minutes. They don’t see me exhausted and cry. But I don’t want to show that part of me. That’s only for my closest inner cycle.

From your perspective, what are some of the challenges facing women today?

Women’s biggest challenge is their own insecurity and how they deal with what’s on social media. Women are basically insecure. Social media is full of uneducated people who write harsh comments. This can impact the mental health of women. Not to mention, when they see the luxury lifestyle of others, they can start to push their husbands and family members to give them such a lifestyle too. I think women should use social media wisely because not everything on social media is true and as picture-perfect as it looks at first sight. Most things on social media are just pictures, we don’t know whether or not what’s in the picture.

Have you ever received hate comments? How do you deal with the haters?

Of course, there are some haters but I see them as the people who care about me and motivate me. If they become ridiculous, I just try to ignore them. I don’t have to prove myself to everybody, do I? Because no matter how good you are, there are always people who hate you. I can’t be bothered to make everybody love me. If you love me, then you love me. If you don’t like me, it’s okay.

Who is your female role model?

I adore Anne Avantie. She is very successful, yet she is still humble and shares a positive vibe through her social media. She also has a real impact on our community by empowering a lot of women in the correctional institution in Semarang and creates several foundations for the diffable. I adore women who are hard-working but don’t overlook their role as a mother and a wife as well, like Victoria Beckham, Jennifer Bachdim and Kiki Siantar. I think it’s okay for women to work and have a career. I hate the concept that men should always be the breadwinner. In any case, no matter what, there should be a task distribution in a family. It’s also important for women to take care of themselves. Even when they handle a lot of things at a time, they can still look gorgeous.